The BBC reported that ‘Tribute has been paid to a “happy, joyful, vibrant and beautiful woman” who died with her three children in a house fire in Bradford.’ It was like an ordinary news story. Those who read it thought that a heroic woman had lost her life with her three children, but that she had died respectably.
The deaths of 29-year-old Bryonie Gawith, her nine-year-old daughter Denisty Birtle, her five-year-old son Oscar Birtle and her 22-month-old daughter Aubree Birtle are a complete tragedy. There is no explanation yet as to what caused the fire. But the deaths are presented as such ordinary news that the burning deaths of four people are presented in a way that does not hurt.
Unfortunately, we are creatures who do not feel the pain of others. We only feel that pain if we can. But what is important is to be able to feel the pain of others without experiencing it and to share that pain.
We have become familiar with the deaths that have become ordinary in our lives, that when we see and read about them, they seem like numbers to us. The death of 4 women and their children will only take its place in history as a newspaper article, and we will only comfort ourselves by standing in silence.